Mango Monday: Accept Failure and Just Do
It’s a common occurrence to doubt yourself everyday. Social media depicts friends having a rich and fulfilling life while you, you’re failing and struggling to make ends meet. You pity yourself and makes excuses but in reality, everyone is pretty much the same as you. What can you do to become successful and happy? How can you fail but still succeed in the end? These questions stop once you stop hating yourself and learning to accept who you are.
To succeed is to live a good life. At least, that’s what was always taught. At a young age, you’re taught to always get the questions right and never be wrong. If you don’t memorize or analyze well enough, you’ll get in trouble or will be deemed a failure. But, what IS so wrong with failing? Why is success rewarded but mistakes looked negatively upon? If there’s anything that’s true, it’s that growth comes from failing multiple times.
Positivity is at an all time high these days. The only thing that we should do as people is to consistently succeed and make money. Failing is out of the question. But is it really?
Growing up, failure was a natural occurrence. All through the years of elementary, middle, and high school, there were too many incidents that caused failure and regret. Eventually, those failures and regrets grew into something new. Failing is important to the growth of a human being. Learning to walk as a baby involved falling down constantly. Learning requires many failures until the success comes. No one is built, or will ever be, perfect
Take school for example. It was found that many valedictorians do not go off to be extremely successful CEOs and innovators of the world. Why is this? To quote the article:
There was little debate that high school success predicted college success. Nearly 90 percent are now in professional careers with 40 percent in the highest tier jobs. They are reliable, consistent and well-adjusted, and by all measures the majority have good lives.
But how many of these number-one high school performers go on to change the world, run the world or impress the world?
The answer seems to be clear: zero.
The real CEOs are those who worked the hardest and struggled through countless failures to achieve their goals. Granted, some CEOs were lucky or inherited it but many more have lived the roughest lives to achieve their success. What’s even more interesting is that they didn’t even become successful because they wanted more money. They wanted to achieve a better version of what they were working on and success came with it.
It’s funny in today’s world. If you ask anyone what they want to do in their life or if they’re happy with their job, they’ll say no. Then, when you suggest to change their current position to work towards something new, they make up excuses as to why they can’t. These same people are the ones who consistently post on social media, spend time watching hours of Netflix, and are too busy on the world around them to focus inside themselves. If this is you, what can you do in those situations? To start, get up and do something RIGHT NOW.
It doesn’t matter if there’s a lot on your plate, if you have a strenuous job, and/or not in a great position in life. Get organized and moving forward. If you’re working too hard for someone else or in something you don’t believe in, walk away. If you can’t walk away, work on the side towards finding a place where you’ll be happy to be.
There was a study done on the very old. They were asked what their biggest regret in life. Most of them said that their biggest regrets weren’t the things that they did but the things they didn’t do because they were too busy worrying. You see, many people decide to take the easy road and live a comfortable life because they’re always worried of the unknown. Those people are the ones that also complain that they can’t achieve anything or get anywhere better in life. That’s where you need to change. Your worry is what prevents you from just going out and doing what you want. Go out and take risks and learn to fail. Fail ten times and get up eleven. Either win in whatever you do or learn from it, you never lose. Never let the conscience of your mind or the fears of the unknown prevent you from being the best version of yourself you an be.
So, if you’re at this point of the article, I would guess that you would at least like to TRY and do something about yourself. Well, where can you start? The simplest and concrete method begins with writing down what you want and how you’ll get there. Write down where you want to be in 10, 5, and 1 year(s). Then, write down the steps you can take today to get closer to your goal of one year. What you can do in the next day, week, month, 2 months, etc. until you have a map towards achieving your goal. Having a plan or vision isn’t executable until you work on having a blueprint of what you want to do and where you want to take that vision. Take a shot at creating a new future. It may seem like a lot of hardwork but you’ll be more satisfied and happier by the end of it.